Saturday, 14 April 2012

How to Win Over People

Being likeable to other people especially if they are around you and you've never met them it's always great to have a nice aura about you. Meaning you shouldn't be slouching, smiling, talkative and giving off the feeling that you want to be there. Although there are always the times where things don't go as planned and can be pretty detrimental to your social identity.

1. Kill Your Ego

No-one likes a party pooper or someone who is really missing the big picture. Egos have no place in social situations and are always frowned upon in social settings. Once the ego manifests itself then your demeanor will change and lose sight of what you're there for in the first place. Being social.

2. Don’t Be Needy

Individuals can sense any feeling of neediness and they're easily turned off by it. A person wants to feel like they're in stable and capable hands, this rule of thumb applies to just about any attempt at persuasion. If I am aware that a person wants something from me then I'd be less obliged to offer my time.

3. Tell Someone (Nicely) What They Have To Lose

Although most people say they want to listen to what they can obtain by taking your guidance, they're actually more affected by what they have to lose by not heeding it. For example, you are going to get further with your manager if you highlight the income you are going to forget out on by not seeking a venture, rather than by stating any prospective advantages. Which is why the expression “Don’t forget it!” is more effective in ads than “Take this opportunity.”

4. Throw a Curveball in the Conversation

Is the conversation getting dull and sad? Throw a "curveball" in the convo! What that means is that if the conversation gets sad, dull and/or draining then change the subject related to what you're all talking about, except make it appear happier than it should. Doing this will shift the mood and make a more interesting conversation.

5. Recap the Other Person’s Argument

Reiterating someone's comment before you give your two cents will make for an easier debate. I try to say them as my own. Doing this helps prevent a war, because I am listening to and stating their opinions after all. Outside of the Internet, the same rules apply. If you’re trying to explain to your kid that he can’t stay up late, begin by stating their opinion—“Look, I know that you want to read the last 492 pages of Harry Potter”—before adding your two cents. Even if they're doubtful to accept the reasoning, they'll appreciate the fact that you listened to them in the first place.


  1. Good tips in this post. Appreciated!

  2. The first pic who are we supposed to be looking at lol, the no-neck or the black guy?. I suppose it matters little.The point is still valid. I tend to talk over people in real life and not listen, i could do with a bit of 'shaddap'.